Rihanna: 'F' Love. Because Love Is Blind
WISER AND BETTER
Strong For Women Everywhere: Rihanna Says 'F' Love, Because Love Is Blind
THE ONLY GOOD RESULT FROM GETTING SLAPPED AROUND IS WISDOM, AND RIHANNA'S SHOWING PROOF OF HER HARD-EARNED LESSON.
After months of speculation as to what happened February 7, 2009 that left her bruised and battered and Chris Brown with five years' probation, Rihanna gave an in-depth interview with Diane Sawyer that put the kibosh on the mysteries surround that evening and gave an intimate look at the young singer's introspection after the incident.
The drive home from a Grammy-party that evening changed the paths of two young pop stars poised for worldwide success. By Rhianna's account, it all started with a text message found in Brown's phone from an ex-flame.
"I caught him in a lie," Rihanna said.
His lying -- and her refusal to drop the issue -- ignited the situation to the point where Brown eventually shoved Rihanna's head into the window, punched her in the face and bit her ear and ring finger. Her resulting injuries were photographed and released by the tabloid website TMZ.com
This Mike Tyson-esque turn for Brown was allegedly his first, sort of.
When Sawyer asked Rihanna had it happened before, she said no. When Sawyer pointed out that she had said he shoved her repeatedly into a wall before, Rihanna's rationale was, "He only shoved her into the wall once."
Rihanna says she was humiliated by the photo, and embarrassed that she had fallen in love with someone who treated her so badly -- and to whom she briefly returned.
"I was still attached by love but I wasn't thinking of the reality of the situation."
Almost three weeks after the incident, Rihanna agreed to meet Brown in Miami where he was photographed jet skiing gleefully.
Ultimately, Rihanna realized she was setting a bad example to other women in abusive relationships, and got in touch with her own anger about the assault. She cut the relationship for good.
"I don't have a desire at all to be with him," she said, admitting there is emotional residue leftover for him.
It seems Rihanna has taken every painful stab from this incident and recycled it as her gift of hope and inspiration for anyone going through something similar.
Her take-away message:
"Don't react off of love. 'F' love. Because love is so blind."
Statistics show that it takes seven or more incidences of abuse for a victim to leave her abuser, according to Sawyer.. By leaving sooner than later, Rihanna has set a solid example for the young women she knows are looking up -- and to her -- for strength.
"I'm glad it happened to me. Now I can help young girls going through domestic violence."
Shakenya Jackson boasts she is among Chicago's finest writers. She enjoys long walks in the park and dirty dishes.
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you nd him is crazy some time yall a meant to be
Posted by: saqwan | November 9, 2009 11:36 AM